OK, so, some new friends come over for dinner. I have cooked a nice steak. My wife pulls a bottle of red wine out of the cupboard and say, “We don’t really drink, but would you like some pinot noir with your steak?.”

Uncomfortable glances between them… What’s the protocol here? “Oh, you don’t drink? Do you want us to not drink around you? Because we don’t drink that much and we can certainly forgo booze for a single meal if it’ll make you more comfortable.”